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The ONLY “right” way to do church.

Right WayThere’s only one way to do church. That’s right, you read that correctly; only one way. And, because I’m a nice guy, I’m going to tell you what that right way is. But first let me say, it is definitely NOT the way that “traditional” institutional Sunday service focused church is doing it. I’m talking about all those churches like Saddleback, Mars Hill, New Spring, National Community Church, The Village Church and all of those similar to that model; big or small. It is also definitely NOT all those small community based churches, and that includes organic home churches, like SOMA, 1Body, and all the ones that I can’t mention because they’re so small they don’t have a webpage to link. None of them are doing it the right way. On the other hand, all of them could be doing it the right way.

You may be asking, “So, what’s the “right” way then?” I’ll get to that in a second, but first I need to clarify something and establish something else.

Clarifying: This post is NOT intended to dig at or cut down how any church is “doing” church. The model doesn’t matter and I’ll make that point in a minute. This post is also NOT intended to say that institutional church is doing it wrong. I grew up and met Jesus in “big” church. If not for going on Sundays and hearing the word preached, I’m not sitting here typing this.

Establishing: I want to be honest about where this post is coming from. Let me start by saying that I recently, with my wife and two long-time friends, started a small gospel centered community, all volunteer based neighborhood church. There are anywhere between 10 and 15 attenders (and that includes a lot of kids). So, my heart is for small church with big celebration. With that said, over the last few weeks I’ve heard and read a number of “institutional” church leaders, some from fairly large churches with decent influence, speak out about the topic that there is no “right” way to do church. A few of those posts/videos seemed really defensive and some even a little abrasive. Again, to to be honest, I’m not sure where this defensiveness is coming from. I follow a number of bloggers (both in large and small church settings) and I rarely see posts from organic/small/house church leaders that suggest that they have the “right” way to do church and big church is wrong or bad. What I do see is small church leaders sharing the call and vision that God has placed in their heart. I see them beckoning to those that are not in gospel community to come and join. I see them trumpeting God’s vision for church, for them, the same way I see large church leaders do it every Sunday. This post is not meant to put those leaders on blast. It’s meant to shed some light, reframe perspective and hopefully show the ability and necessity to be unified in one body and one Spirit.

It’s easy to point out what others are doing wrong. We can look at an individual, program or organization and see the little flaws that may be hurting them, whether they know or acknowledge them or not. Sometimes that’s good. If you’re a part of that organization, have earned a trusted voice there and have a heart for the vision and mission, “fresh eyes” are often welcomed. But, if you’re outside of that organization, aren’t trusted or don’t care about the vision, then voicing what you see is likely not helpful and will typically be taken as criticism for the sake of being a jerk and will often be disregarded. It’s also easier to make it seem like what you’re doing is better or right, if you can point out others’ errors. If that’s what you’re doing, then chances are you don’t actually believe what you’re doing is right or good. That’s what’s been happening in the Church.

Lots of big and small church leaders have written books or blogs about the “right” way to “do” church. Some of them point out all of the “wrong” stuff that the other is doing. I haven’t spoken to most of those leaders, but I imagine that the ones that point out what other churches are doing wrong and then counter with how they’re way is right, don’t really believe, deep in their heart, that they are really called to it. Or at the least, they haven’t spent time allowing God to cultivate the call in them.

As I mentioned, I’m part of a team that just started a small neighborhood church. It’s the culminated call of years of God’s cultivation and the beginning of His pruning and harvesting. I have journals, upon journals with writings about what church could look like, outside of the larger institutional model and different than the organic house church model. The vision God has planted in my heart falls somewhere in between those two models. But, I believe in it. I believe in that call and vision. And because I believe in it, I write about it and I plan to write about it a lot more. In that writing I always try to take care to not say either side is doing church wrong. Like I said, without institutional church, I’m not here. It’s never been about anyone doing church “right” or “wrong”. It’s about doing church the way that you feel God calling YOU to do church. Ultimately I don’t care how you do church as long as you do church. Realistically I’d like every Christian to understand what it means that we are church, but I’ll settle for doing church together in the mean time. What I, and many others, write isn’t an accusation toward big church “doing it wrong.”

My articles like Rethinking the Churches Front Door and It’s Not Your Pastor’s Job are not indications that I think institutional/big church models are wrong in the model they’re using or the work they’re doing. What it does mean is that I’m pursuing Jesus in a way that honors the call and vision that God has placed in my heart. It means that I believe in what God has invited me, and many others, to be a part of. It means that God has shown me that it works; both through my life and in the lives of others that I’ve been a part of. It means that God has revealed to me that there are people that neither traditional Sunday service focused church, nor simple organic home church will ever reach, but that this model will. It means that I know there are people that we will never reach with this model of church and I thank God that there are traditional Sunday service focused churches and simple organic home churches to do that. It means that I’m writing for those that God may be prompting to do something different or fresh.

My writing, and likely many others that are writing about the vision God has given them for church, is not a call to abandon the way that God has called you to be a part of or “do” church. It isn’t the antithesis of your model of church; it’s complimentary to it. It’s intended to be a different part of the same body. When you act offended at the notion that God may have shown someone else another way, you’re telling that part that they’re unnecessary. But “The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you…’” I’ve heard so many pastors and leaders in traditional Sunday service focused churches say something to the effect of, “Our way isn’t the best or only way to do church, it’s a way and it’s the way that God has called us to.” If that’s a true statement, then the words directed at other churches should be ones of encouragement and building up.

The only way to do church is to answer the call to the community that God has placed in you. As long as it’s biblical and Jesus centered, you’ve got THE way to do church. Chances are, all of us have some aspect of church wrong. But, as long as we’re in a community of believers who’s sole purpose it to glorify and worship God, then you’re doing church “right.” Your full “rock” style band leading worship is no more wrong than your single guitar and djembe. Jesus said, the world will know we are his by our love for each other. Maybe we start by not being defensive toward one another and recognizing that we’re all doing the same work, His.

What are some ways that we can be unified as one body?

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Rethinking the Church’s Front Door

Church DoorI love Sundays. Sundays are the day that I get together with other Christians and celebrate the good things of God. I get to submit myself to good teaching, sing songs of praise, and talk and catch up with friends. It’s good. But it wasn’t always good. It wasn’t until about five years ago that I started really appreciating Sunday church. Five years ago I met a group of believers that loved and engaged me outside of the “Sunday morning experience.” They dedicated time to my growth, which allowed me to experience genuine Gospel centered community. It wasn’t until then that I saw the benefit and joy of a Sunday morning gathering.

For the 20 years prior to that, I dreaded Sundays. When I went to church, I left feeling guilty and ashamed. I left knowing I needed Jesus, but too ashamed to approach Him, for fear of rejection or worse, chastisement. Other times, I opted not to go, but that brought its own guilt. I felt guilty for avoiding the place that made me feel guilty. So I played the game of feeling guilty when I went and feeling guilty when I didn’t. It was taxing to say the least. Eventually I committed to not going anymore, it just seemed easier than trying to get into a “club” that no one would tell me the password for. The only reason I went back is because my children were becoming old enough to understand and I wanted them to grow up with a set of decent values. But I was still only committed to just being an “attender”, nothing more.

When I first started attending church, it was because my dad’s boss invited us. Yes, it’s true that most people who are invited attend, but that doesn’t mean they stay. I didn’t and so many people I know didn’t. Everything I’ve learned church shows this drastic disparity between the early church, in which “the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved” and today’s church, in which we have an abundance of statistics that show the mass exodus of people and pastors from the church. It doesn’t add up in my brain. Over the past few years I’ve had countless discussions about what may have happened and I think one of the issues centers around one simple thing; our front door.

As the early church evolved the “front door” to Christianity quickly became and has traditionally been the Sunday morning corporate gathering. The whole launching point for someone’s Christian faith has become the church building where people gather on Sunday mornings. From there we encourage our people to invite their family and friends back to our building. If they accept the invitation, they’re treated to an amazing musical performance, delivered an engaging sermon and asked if they want to accept Jesus. People are invited into our buildings, converted by acknowledging of our teachings, and sent back to their home with hopes that they’ll keep coming and bring others. Some do, but so many others don’t. If you look at any study done over the last two decades it appears that practice seems to be less and less effective in helping people to experience the abundant life that Jesus promised.

It’s odd to me that in a culture that seems to be seeking an authentic way to connect with others and understand where God fits, so many people walk away from or outright ignore the very entity that exists to do both of those things. Perhaps it’s time to consider that changing the way we’ve traditionally gone about inviting people to follow Jesus hasn’t been for the better. I’m not opposed to Sunday morning service. On the contrary, communal/corporate gathering and worship is essential to growing in Christ. It’s an important part of following Jesus and glorifying God. But, I think it’s better suited as a gathering intended for believers. That doesn’t mean that unbelievers won’t be there. On the contrary, they will and should, but the gathering should be for celebrating God and to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ.

So, if then the “Sunday morning” gathering is for Christians, then where does that leave our “front door” for inviting unbelievers? On our homes. The front door to following Jesus started out as the door to the Christians’ homes and it wasn’t because they didn’t have anywhere else to worship. Acts 2:46 & 47 tell us that they gathered in the Temple courts to worship together. Then they would go home and eat and praise God together. And still, “the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” The 1st century Christians were hospitable people. It was a natural part of being a Christian, and was modeled by Jesus, to invite the “unclean” into a meal with you. There’s no doubt that those that were hungry, needy or rejected by the temple priests were invited into the Christians homes to eat with them. And if that be the case, it’s no doubt that they heard about Jesus, in those same homes. It would be after they heard the Good News that they would be added to the number as one of those saved. It was then that they would accompany the other believers to the Temple in order to celebrate together.

We live in an “off the hook” Christian culture, in that, as long as we invite someone to Sunday morning we’re off the hook for anything else.

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Nowadays, it doesn’t happen that way. If we even feel comfortable enough to invite our neighbor, it isn’t into our home, it’s to a building, typically located nowhere near our neighborhood. Today’s Christians don’t need a defense for the hope they have, because they just need to hand their neighbor an invite card and let the Pastor tell them about Jesus. We live in an “off the hook” Christian culture, in that, as long as we invite someone to Sunday morning we’re off the hook for anything else. I’m not downing on the corporate gathering, I love it. But maybe we should consider opening the front door to our homes and inviting people into relationship with us. When we do, we get to expose them to Jesus without show and pretense. We get to be authentic and transparent. We get to show them that we’re as messy and vulnerable as they are. It creates a more level ground than the church building does. It’s more difficult to call a Christian a hypocrite when you see behind the curtain, into their home. Then, once we’ve engaged them in an honest and transparent way and they’ve still seen Jesus in our life, the Holy Spirit can better deal with their unbelief and the seeds we plant will fall on good soil more often. It becomes about following Jesus all week, rather than just on Sunday.

The model for community in today’s Christian church looks like this:

1. Invite unbeliever to church, via an invite card.
2. Unbeliever hears pastor preach about some social issue, ties it into the Bible and hopefully Jesus.
3. Unbeliever feels guilty and some sort of wanting.
4. They attend a couple more time, finally accepting the offer to say the sinner’s prayer.
5. They’re applauded and invited to contact the church if they want more information about the decision they made.
6. They keep attending and are eventually encouraged to serve on Sunday morning and join a small home group, so that they can have community.
7. They become involved in the business of church, but rarely experience genuine community. This creates shallow roots that can be easily torn up when life become difficult.

open front doorWhat if the model looked a little different? What if instead of inviting them to church, we invited them into our life. When if we opened our front door and built relationship with our neighbors? Then when they ask about the hope we have, we’re able to give an answer. What if we put the time into cultivating rich soil, so that the seeds we plant take deep root? What if we lived life with them; grieving and celebrating with them, praying for and with them, loving on them and letting them learn to love us? What if it was after building a deep friendship, that they joyfully chose to join us to celebrate His goodness? What would it look like if our approach was intimate then corporate gathering rather than cooperate gathering with hopes of intimacy?

The front door to meeting Jesus shouldn’t be a building where people get lost in the mix, but a place where the lost become known. TWEET THIS!

What are some ways to make our homes the front door to introducing others to Jesus?

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The Grinding Gears of the Church Machine

Church Machine

Lately I have had a number of conversations pertaining to the difficulty of working inside the Church “machine”. I have always felt as if we over complicate “taking” the Gospel to those in need. That feeling always made it difficult to reconcile how we “do” church with the light Yoke Jesus spoke of. Then a friend said something that helped close the gap. He said, “In order to ‘do’ church the way we’ve always done traditional church, you just have to be okay with it chewing up and spitting out members of your congregation.” He suggested one in every twenty church volunteers will be used to exhaustion, experience burn out and leave church. Typically they will leave jaded, cynical and hurt.

His point was that if you plan to run your church the way “we always have,” then you have to be “okay” with that consequence as a part of the business of church. Obviously a pastor would never verbalize it that way, or even go into starting a church with that mentality. But there is an underlying and unconscious acceptance that it is going to happen and you have to be fine with it.

If Pastors Burn-out

To be fair, i was not able to validate the 1 in 20 statistic. What I was able to find were numbers for Pastor “burnout” rates. Multiple articles stated that 1500 pastors leave their ministries every MONTH due to burnout, conflict or moral failure. If that is the number of pastors, think about the number of congregants that do a lot of the ground level production work on any given Sunday. With those pastor numbers and their ratio to the number of volunteers, 1 in 20 does not seem so absurd. Even without the reports and statics, my anecdotal evidence to support that assertion is based on watching so many people leave the church, hurt, tired and jaded, because they felt like The Church only wanted to use them for their own agenda. The collective feeling is that the church exploited their talents and willingness to give to and serve.

Jesus’ Yoke

Surely this is not how it was meant to be. Every time I think about this, I am drawn back to what Jesus said in Matthew 11:28-30.

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” 


This is not an invitation to come and do nothing. This is an invitation to those that have been trying to be good enough. It is an invitation to those wearied by religious work; to those who are heavy burdened from having labored in the function of religion. This is not an invitation out of work, but rather one into better, more life giving work. Jesus is talking about putting on a yoke, which has everything to do with work. He is telling us that His ministry and His work, though it requires much of us, is nowhere near the burden we are experiencing inside of the system of religion we have built.

Work of the Ministry

I think many of us have misinterpreted what doing the “work” of ministry really is. Historically the Church has required much in the way of “task completion” from its workers. Often times that expectation is to the point of over-working the saints. To me it seems clear that the yoke Jesus was talking about comes in the form of life spent together with others. Living with people is hard. It draws out every emotion and requires much of our time and resources. But living with people is not “work” in the way that the Church has defined it. Instead, it is Gospel work and is far lighter a burden than perfectly executing a weekly program that 3000 people depend on.

Do Church or Be Church

Please do not think that I am throwing out traditional or institutional church, I am not. I am for the communal gathering of the Saints. And, I believe that there are those that God has called to fulfill specific pastoral offices and even lead those communal gatherings. Gathering is both biblical and vital to our relationship with each other and God. However, I do not think our Sunday productions are what Jesus was talking about when He said “light burden.” Right before Jesus talked about His easy yoke, He talked about knowing the Father. That is the work He was talking about, the work of introducing people to Him so that they would know The Father. This is done in community with others. This is done by being in the world. When we live among and love and serve our neighbors, as Jesus commanded, we are doing His work. He calls us to put on His light yoke because we were built for a ministry that is focused on loving each other, loving God and loving our neighbor through relational living. As we pour into other Saints, and allow them to pour into us, with the love of Christ, we tend to stay more full. In that way we are far better equipped for the work of the ministry.

Some Are, Many Aren’t

Again, I am not suggesting that God does not call some to work in church buildings on Sunday mornings. But we ought to be careful in billing this as THE main avenue for service or doing the work of Jesus. While God may call some Saints to “work” on Sunday mornings, so many more are not. Looking over the church landscape, convinces me more and more that we have complicated the burden and yoke of Jesus to the point of exhausting the workers. Surely Jesus did not intend for His followers to burn-out in their carrying of His Gospel. Because that would go against His promise of abundant life (John 10:10) and easy yoke. In the end what remains is the guarantee that when we figure this out, we will have healthier disciples. And healthier disciples means a healthier church. 

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