Author: Bruce Pagano II (Page 13 of 51)

Bruce Pagano is a blogger and podcaster living in the Treasure Valley area of Idaho. He is married and has four children, a retired US military veteran, a licensed clinical professional counselor, and has over 14 years of ministerial leadership experience. Most of his writing focuses on manhood, leadership, relationships, and faith issues. His writing can be found at www.brucepagano.com and his podcast at www.foldingchairtheology.com.

Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin… Except Ours

LoveIn the name of love, we are willing to do things that we never dreamed. For instance, I love my wife so much I willingly endure temperatures in our home that are on par with the outer boundaries of hell, because she is cold…even during summer. What can I say? I really love my wife.

Built for Love

At the end of the day, we are built for love. We are designed to give and receive love. Being that God is love and He desires to have us as His beloved; it follows that we are created to receive His love and extend it to others. Thankfully, many Christians understand this calling – extending and being His love. I’m hearing more and more people affirm that we are called to love others, and this is a good thing. What concerns me is what else can be said.

Love filled Hate

A common comment from people of the church is: “I hate the sin, but I love the sinner.” My response to this is always, “No you don’t.” Please understand, I recognize the good intention in this statement, because I use to say this very thing. What I understand now is that we error in believing that hate and love can coexist. “Hate the sin, but love the sinner” is found…nowhere in the Bible. This teaching isn’t in the Bible. While the bible definitely makes the case that God hates sin, it actually says evil (Ps 97:10), it more often points to hating our own sin, rather than sin in general, because it is our sin that keeps us from Him (Isa 59:2). And when we look at Jesus’ ministry, it was not part of His teachings. What Jesus did say was “Love God and love others.”

Your Plank

Again, He did mention “the speck” (or sin – Mt 7:3-5) in your brother’s eye. However, it was not for the purpose the church typically references. When we use that scripture to call out someone else’s sin, we disregard that Jesus first said deal with the plank in our own eye. In other words, that huge board! I mean, the guy was a carpenter, so I’m sure He was pretty solid on what a plank of wood looked like. His point was, deal with the huge sin in your own life, before considering the sin in your brother’s.

Their Speck

One of the key words in this passage of scripture is brother. After dealing with your own sin, Jesus was talking about dealing with the sin of other believers, not people outside of His followers. Sadly, we use this scripture to justify naming the sin of people who do not even believe they should be following Jesus. Then we wonder why they won’t come to our church. I’ve never seen anyone come to Jesus after a Christian said, “Jesus hates your sin, but He loves you, so follow Him.”

Hate Crushing Love

Here is the truth. You cannot truly love someone when you are focused on what you hate about them, and what they’re doing wrong. If we, as The Church, truly desire to love others as we love ourselves (Mk 12:31), we need to recognize that with God, hate never precedes love. It just cannot. Love cannot have anything to do with hate – except to crush it. Love stands alone and conquers hate. Remember you are built for love. This is the way of Jesus.

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As a Christian, You Have to Go First

Go first

We live in turbulent times. At every turn it seems a new calamity befalls us. People are quick to use tragedies as an opportunity to press their agenda – and prove their view – insisting they are the most correct.

At best this is disheartening. Closer to reality, this response is soul crushing. One of the saddest aspects is what I see in my newsfeed, from my tribe, my fellow Christians. I see my people trying to prove how right they are. What I see running rampant is pride of historical privilege.

Our heritage

Throughout the last 1500 to 1800 years, Christianity has been the religion of choice for entire countries. Christianity was often married to the state. Americans have enjoyed this privilege. It is only within the last 30 to 50 years that we have felt challenged. Because of our longstanding connection to using our religion to shape governments, it has been engrained in us that whatever our view is, it is correct.

A serious problem occurs when the need to be right is our first concern. When our rights become first, discounting people becomes easy. It becomes easier to dismiss hurting and broken people. Politicizing our religion, for the sake of being right, suggests we believe our commission from Jesus was to be right. Unfortunately, there is almost nothing more contrary to the work of Christ.

Jesus and your rights

When I read the Bible, I cannot find any directive that encourages Christians to hold tightly to the principle of being right. Instead what I read are passages like Philippians 2:3, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves,” Matthew 18:22, when speaking of how often to forgive, Jesus said, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times,” Matthew 5:9, Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God,” and Matthew 5:39, “But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

The Gospel message is flooded with ideas like this. Jesus never said to stand up for our “rights” at the cost of loving people. In fact, everything that He said opposed that view. He said things like “the first will be last and the last will be first.” He was not talking about the monetarily rich or poor. He was talking about the proud and the humble. Jesus’ entire view of ministry is spelled out in Mark 10:45 when He said, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Our Real agenda

At the end of the day, if you are a Christian, tragedy is not an occasion for you to push your agenda. It is actually the perfect time to push Jesus’ agenda; which is serving and loving people. Even more, you must begin before a tragic event. Loving people must be interwoven into our daily life. So much so, that Jesus’ agenda becomes our response – to every situation. I am not suggesting that we disengage from the political arena, because the Gospel is intended to change hearts. And through the change of hearts, we may have the opportunity to influence governments and cultures. Everything begins with engaging people.

And it does not matter what group you think I am talking about. Pick one: LGBTQ, Democrats, Republicans, Muslims, etc. Regardless of the existing issues between Christians and any of those groups, someone has to close the gap. Someone must go first.

Because of who we are in Christ, and who we chose to follow and call Lord, we go first. We get to go first. We always go first. When it comes to love and compassion, we go first. We are to be Christ to everyone who comes into contact with us. The privilege to represent Him should compel us to go first – with no agenda but His. Go first, without concern for being right, and instead carry the desire to serve, not to be served.

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Worry Empties Your Today

Worry


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.

~ Corrie ten Boom ~


As far back as I can remember, I have had a tendency to worry. It used to be to the point of creating excessive anxiety. Although I didn’t show it on the outside, inwardly I was a wreck.

Today, I am not driven to excessive worry. However, I can still get caught up in worrying about things that are presumably out of my control. If my worry only affected me, it would not be as big of an issue. Unfortunately worry, stress, and anxiety rarely only affect the person experiencing it.

Worry Seeps Out

Over the last few months I have been worrying about some real-life, adult stuff. I had mostly kept it at bay, but recently I started thinking on it to the point that it became overly stressful and started seeping into my outward behavior. I did not recognize this, but my wife did. That worry manifested itself in the form of being short with her. My wife began to worry I was possibly angry at or frustrated with her. I was not. My worries have nothing to do with her. Because we work hard at keeping our lines of communication open, she was able to bring it to my attention.

Any Excellence

The main thing my wife helped me realize during our conversation is how easily we are affected by what we choose to think about. I’m reminded of Paul’s exhortation of what we ought to think on. In Philippians 4:8 he urges, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” It is when we think on these things that God works the renewing of our mind. When we think on these things we are made more and more into the image of Christ. We become more able to deal with our concerns in healthier ways. As we think on these things, worry loses its power over us and we are able to depend more fully on God. Our focus becomes peace rather than worry. Paul concludes this thought by telling us that if we think on those things and “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”

He Is Our Peace.

Isn’t that what we all want? Peace? When we worry, our attention is pulled away from God, our heart is dulled, and our peace is stolen from us. But, when we think on the good things of God, we will see clearly that He is with us. He is our peace.

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